i'm sold
You're a brilliant woman whose brain has started working against her instead of for her. And that is what I help you turn around.
None of this means something is wrong with you, by the way.
There's a version of you underneath all this noise who already knows what she wants. She's just been drowned out for a while.
You've rewritten that email four times. You still haven't sent it. You're now overthinking whether you're overthinking it.
Your boss said "can we have a quick chat?" half an hour ago and you've already mentally packed your desk.
You once said "you too" when the waiter said "enjoy your meal." You think about it every time you drive past the restaurant.
You've got a decision to make and you've made a pros and cons list, asked two friends, Googled it, made a second list, and you're no closer than you were a month ago.
Last night you lay awake rehearsing both sides of a conversation that hasn't happened yet. You won that conversation. You also lost it. Twice.
Nobody knows how loud it is inside your head..
are you inside my head?
And the really cruel part is you know you're doing it. You can watch yourself spiral in real time, narrating the whole thing like a documentary you can't switch off. Here she goes again…
You've tried to sort it. The books. The apps. The journalling. Yoga. Meditation. Someone once told you to "just think positive" and you've never fully forgiven them.
Nothing sticks - and you're starting to wonder if this is just how your brain works now.
You've missed opportunities - not because you weren't good enough, but because by the time you'd finished weighing it all up, the moment had gone. The job. The conversation. The idea you nearly shared before your brain talked you out of it.
Every decision takes three times longer than it should. What to say. What to wear. What to have for dinner. Whether that text you sent an hour ago sounded passive aggressive. Whether you should send a follow-up to clarify. Whether the follow-up makes it worse.
You're knackered from thinking too much.
You've known for years. Knowing was never the problem.
“Tanya's coaching has been beyond my expectations... She is just amazing and I cannot thank her or recommend her enough!!!”
- hayley zaire, recruitment manager
okay. i'm listening
These are patterns, not permanent truths. Your brain learned them to keep you safe. And what it learned, it can unlearn.
If you could have just stopped, you would have done it years ago.
A thinking mind is going to think. That's what it does. The problem isn't that you think too much. It's where all that thinking is directed.
Is it helping you prepare - or convincing you you're about to fail? Is it helping you make sense of something - or pulling you into a spiral about what it means about you as a person?
Same brain. Same thinking ability. Completely different direction.
When thinking turns into self-criticism, catastrophising, and endless second guessing, that's not thinking. That's thinking against yourself. And it hurts more than people realise, because you never get to rest from it. You can walk away from a difficult person. You can leave a bad situation (although I appreciate it can be hard to do). But when the voice tearing you apart is your own, there's nowhere to go.
The answer to overthinking isn't to stop thinking. That's like telling someone with insomnia to just go to sleep.
Your brain's been running the show long enough. Time to hand the crown to someone who actually deserves it.
YOU.
work with me
Seven sessions. Five steps.
One goal: get your brain working for you again.
Based on The QUEEN Blueprint™
How We Work Together:
Reign of Confidence™ - 1:1 Coaching Programme
Q - Quiet Clarity
First thing I'll ask you is what you want. And you'll give me the answer you give everyone - the safe one, the sensible one, the one that won't make anyone uncomfortable. So I'll ask you something else. Then something else. Then something you weren't expecting. Until we get to the answer that's been underneath the whole time - the one you haven't said out loud because you weren't sure you were allowed to want it.
step 2
U - Understanding Your Patterns
I'm going to show you how your brain works against you - and I mean yours, specifically. Not overthinking as a concept. The exact script that runs when your manager leaves you on read. The exact lie your brain tells you at 4pm on a Sunday. The exact way your perfectionism has been masquerading as high standards your entire career so you'd never think to question it. We drag it all into the light. And when you see it clearly and can spot the pattern, the relief is like putting something down you didn't realise you'd been carrying in both hands for decades.
E - Exploring Your Triggers
Now we look at why these patterns exist. The people pleasing that kicks in the second someone's tone shifts. The shutting down that kept you safe when one person's mood could change the temperature of your entire household. The perfectionism that was armour in an environment where mistakes got punished. Your brain wasn't broken. It was protecting you. The problem is it never got the memo that you're not in that situation anymore. This is usually the session where a client goes quiet for a moment and then says "I've been so angry at myself for years - and none of it was my fault."
step 4
E - Editing the Pattern
This is where I teach you to think differently. Not positively or less - differently. You learn to catch your brain in the act in the first thirty seconds of a spiral, not three hours later when you've mentally drafted a resignation letter and rehearsed a tearful phone call to your mum. I'll give you tools that work in the room where it's happening. When your heart is hammering before a meeting. When someone challenges you and your brain is screaming "you're a fraud." When it's 2am and the loop won't stop. These are pattern interrupts built from psychology and neuroscience that work because they're designed for how your brain actually operates.
N - Nurturing Self Trust
Imagine making a decision and just leaving it alone. Imagine someone questioning you and your feet staying planted. Imagine resting without the guilt. That's where we're heading. Not loud confidence, but bone deep, understated confidence. Where you back yourself without polling four friends first. Where you say what you think without rehearsing it. Where your inner critic still pipes up occasionally - because it will - but you just nod at it and carry on. This is the part where clients stop saying "I think I might be ready" and start saying "I already am." And meaning it.
count me in
Still reading? Good. Your crown's waiting.
Sign up now before you talk yourself out of it.
And I know you're already overthinking it.
You're wondering if you can justify it. You're thinking about whether now is the right time, whether you should wait, whether you've already spent too much on self help things that didn't work and this might be another one.
I get it. That's your brain doing its thing.
So here's what it actually is: seven sessions with someone who gets it. Not because she read about it. Because she's lived it, rebuilt from it, and now has the psychology training and coaching credentials to walk you through doing the same.
Fancy a chat first?
Your Investment:
£1,500. Payment plans available. Pay in full discount.
LET'S HAVE A CHAT - NO TIARA REQUIRED
Pay in Full
Seven one-to-one coaching sessions with Tanya.
5 steps: The QUEEN Blueprint™
4-6 months of support.
One goal: get your brain working for you again.
Payable today - £1,350 (Including the 10% pay in full discount).
Three monthly payments of £500.
Six monthly payments of £250.
Ten monthly payments of £150.
Split Pay
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Don't just take the word of a tiara-wearing Scottish introvert. Here's what the women who've done this have to say.
my story
I lost my job on February 8th 2017. I know the exact date because my brain wouldn't let me forget it.
I'd spent thirteen years in the same company. HR. Leadership. Recruitment. I was the dependable one. The one who stayed. Until one day, without warning, I wasn't.
And the thing that broke me wasn't the redundancy. It was realising I'd tied every single piece of my self worth to a role that could be taken away in an afternoon.
I did what overthinkers do. I replayed it endlessly. I blamed myself. I lay awake analysing every conversation for signs I should have seen coming. I smiled through every "things could be worse" and "you didn't even like it there" while falling apart.
On the train home that day, somewhere between humiliation and heartbreak, I made myself a promise. Never again would someone else have that much control over how I felt about myself.
So I did something that made no logical sense. I sat in the middle of a breakdown and started building a coaching business. It didn't feel brave. It felt like the only option that was mine.
That was nine years ago. Since then I've rebuilt myself from the inside out. I'm far from polished and nowhere near perfect (who is?) but I'm someone who finally understands her own mind instead of being at war with it.
I came into this with a psychology degree and 15 years in HR and leadership behind me. I've since added an accreditation in transformational life coaching. But the thing that makes me good at what I do isn't on any certificate. It's that I've lived inside an overactive brain - and found the way out.
I'm Tanya, by the way. 40-something Scottish introvert, empath, HSP, chronic pain warrior, cat mum, and someone who will absolutely Google the ending of a film twenty minutes in.
I don't just coach from theory. I coach from the wreckage, the rebuild, and everything I learned on the way back up.
let's talk
Is this therapy?
No. Coaching is forward focused - I'm not here to diagnose or treat. I'm here to understand your patterns and give you practical ways to change them.
If you're navigating significant trauma, severe anxiety, or depression, a therapist might be the better first step. Coaching and therapy work brilliantly alongside each other, though - and plenty of my clients do both.
Are you a psychologist?
Nope! I’m not a psychologist or a doctor. I’m a mindset and transformational life coach, accredited by the Animas Centre for Coaching, with a psychology degree in my back pocket.
My coaching is grounded in psychology, neuroscience, and evidence-based tools - but it’s not clinical or diagnostic.
Will this work if I'm neurodivergent or have chronic illness?
I'm an HSP and chronic pain fighter - so this isn't me guessing what it's like to work around a brain and body that don't always cooperate. It's me building something I needed too. We work with your capacity, not against it. Everything adapts to your energy, your pace, and your brain. The whole process is bespoke to you.
I am not a woman, can I still join this programme?
Yes, absolutely! Whilst this programme is designed with women in mind. It is suitable for all men and women, trans or cis, who overthink.
How do I know this will work for me?
You don't, and I'm not going to promise you it will, because I don't know you yet. What I can tell you is that every client quoted on this page felt exactly the way you feel right now before they started. Book the call or send me an email. Ask me anything. Then decide.
Do you offer refunds or guarantees?
As coaching is a process, refunds are not available, in full or partially. However if you show up, do the work, complete the programme, and still find yourself overthinking, I will offer you an additional three 1:1 coaching sessions, free of charge (ten sessions in total) to help get you where you want to be.
I've tried coaching before and it didn't work.
That's not unusual. A lot of coaching stays on the surface with goal setting, accountability, cheerleading. This goes underneath. We work with how your brain actually operates, not how a motivational quote thinks it should. Different approach, much better results.
Not at all. There's no entry requirement. If your brain is loud and you're tired of it running the show, that's enough.
Do I need a diagnosis to do this?
What if I'm not ready?
Respectfully - when has an overthinker ever felt ready? You don't need to feel ready. You need to feel curious enough to have a conversation. That's what the free call is for. Book yours here, or send me an email if that's your preference.
What if I can't afford it right now?
What happens once I sign up?
What are the next steps?
You will receive a copy of the coaching terms and conditions via email to be signed electronically - these terms are there to protect both of us.
Once payment is received and the terms and conditions are signed I will contact you to arrange your first coaching call, online via Zoom, at a mutually convenient time.
Appointments are available to accomodate all time zones.
There's a split payment plan available, with prices from £150 per month. But I'd also gently ask you to notice whether "I can't afford it" is a financial reality or an overthinking pattern telling you not to invest in yourself. Only you know the answer to that. Both are valid, but one of them is worth questioning.
Either book a call with me here.
Or dive straight in and sign up now. Once you have signed up you will receive your first email from me within 24 hours.
Spoiler: it won't win this time.
Frequently Asked Questions
The bit where your brain tries to talk you out of it
Your brain doesn't need a babysitter. It just needs someone to show it a new way of working with you, not against you. That's what I'm here for.
Pay in Full
Seven one-to-one coaching sessions with Tanya.
5 steps: The QUEEN Blueprint™
4-6 months of support.
One goal: get your brain working for you again.
Payable today - £1,350 (Including the 10% pay in full discount).
Three monthly payments of £500.
Six monthly payments of £250.
Ten monthly payments of £150.
Split Pay
Ready to dive straight in?
save me money
let's do this!
